Question 1

My romantic partner says, "If you really love me, you'll have sex with other people and help me pay off my debt."  What should I do?

Accepted Answer

Real love will NEVER ask you to sell your body.  Even if your partner promises that they love you and wants to spend the rest of their lives with you, showers you with gifts and affection or takes you to nice places, it is NOT LOVE if they are manipulating your romantic feelings and attachments to profit from your abuse.

Someone who truly cares about you will not nudge, ask, or demand sexual intercourse with another person. You are the one who decides what happens to your body, and no one can take that right away from you.  You deserve better!

Question 2

What is a Romeo Pimp?

Accepted Answer

"Romeo Pimp" is a slang term used for people that pretend to have romantic feelings for someone, but after gaining their trust and affection as "girlfriends/boyfriends," force them to engage in sexual or sugar dating activities with others.

Question 3

What are some of the common lies that Romeo Pimps tell their victims?

Accepted Answer

"I want us to get married, but I have a lot of debt.  If you agree to do sex work just for a little while we can pay it off faster and can be together forever."

"If you really love me then you will send me some nude pics.  It's normal for couples that love each other."

"If you don't do what I want, I'll leave you."

"You are hated by your family and friends, so if you leave me, you will be alone.  If you agree to do what I ask then we can be together."

Question 4

My romantic partner wants me to sell my body because he needs a large sum of money. Is this a crime?

Accepted Answer

If you are under 18, your romantic partner is committing a crime.  He/she is   pressuring you to sell your body and exploiting you for prostitution. This is illegal under the law.  Under the law, you are a victim, and your partner is guilty of committing a crime.

Question 5

I lied about being over 18 when doing sexual things for money. Does that mean I committed a crime?

Accepted Answer

No. If you are under 18, you are a victim. The person who paid for the sex act is at fault for not verifying your age.

Question 6

I am having sexual relations with a romantic partner, but I am still a minor. Is this legal?

Accepted Answer

If you are under 16, it is illegal to have a sexual relationship with another person.  If you are 16 or 17 years old, you may legally consent to a sexual relationship with a romantic partner that is not more than 5 years older than you.

However, because of the many risks involved in sexual relations, it is strongly recommended that you wait until you are an adult!  It is best to wait until you are in a committed long-term relationship with a partner that will never pressure you to do sexual things.

Question 7

What are the risks of papakatsu, compensated dating or selling sex?

Accepted Answer

There are so many risks!  For example:  
- The person paying you for sex could make secret video recordings and threaten you to do more extreme things.    
- You could become pregnant.  
- You could get a sexually transmitted disease that can lead to serious illness or death. 
- You could be strangled, injured or killed.

Question 8

My partner is pressuring me to do papakatsu, but I don't want to do it. Should I break up with him?

Accepted Answer

Your life is very important and valuable! You should have a serious discussion with your partner and if he still insists on selling his body, you should end the relationship. If he cares about you, he will not ask you to sell your body.

Question 9

I have nude pictures of the person I was dating on my phone. What should I do?

Accepted Answer

Delete the image immediately and ask the person not to send you the image again. Nude images of minors are considered “child pornography,” and it is illegal to keep child pornography on your phone.

Question 10

The person I am dating online says they will spread my images online if I don't pay money or send more images. What should I do?

Accepted Answer

It sounds like you are a victim of online sextortion and this person is committing a crime against you.  Do not pay money or send images to the offender. Please contact us anonymously for more advice.

Question 11

I have sent nude photos or videos of myself to a partner. Am I a minor and will I be charged with a crime?

Accepted Answer

No, you, as a minor, are not at fault. You will not be legally punished for agreeing to send the photos or videos.

Question 12

I don't want to sell my body for sex, but if I only do it a few times and quit, do you think it's ok?

Accepted Answer

No!  Please don't put yourself at risk, not even once.  Your life is far too valuable.  There are many risks involved in selling your body, even just once. Do not compromise - you deserve better!

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We offer a free and anonymous hotline for minors. You can communicate with us via LINE, phone or email.